Congratulations, you are becoming a parent (again)!
What a special time is dawning. Maybe you have just heard the news, or maybe you have known for a while: you are going to be a father! That little dot your wife is now carrying in her belly may only be 5 mm big, but it already means so much. While the very beginning of pregnancy may not feel tangible to you yet, an awful lot is already happening.
For your wife, this can be a challenging period. That little baby can cause quite a few discomforts, such as nausea, fatigue and those well-known hormone fluctuations. Of course, there are plenty of other complaints that can occur, but you can read more about them on the rest of our site.
Now let's talk about you. Because even though your role may seem small at this stage, nothing could be further from the truth. Your involvement as a (future) parent is incredibly important. Research shows that when you are actively involved during pregnancy, this not only strengthens your bond as a family, but also has a positive impact on your baby's development.
Know that your support and presence make a difference, right now. You are at the start of a wonderful journey together, and your role in it is bigger than you may think.
Your role as a (future) parent during pregnancy
As a (future) parent, you experience pregnancy differently from your partner. You do not carry the baby physically with you, but your involvement is at least as valuable. There are certain moments during the pregnancy that can be very special for you as a father and when you can really build a bond with your baby.
- The first ultrasound: The moment you see your baby for the first time is often unforgettable. You may also see the heart beating or even hear it for the first time. This can be incredibly special and connecting.
- The first check-up: If you can be there, it is nice to experience this appointment together. It's a great time to ask questions and be actively involved.
- Follow-up check-ups: During follow-up appointments, you are always welcome. There is even a little chair ready for you, so you can have a good look and experience everything with us.
- Preparation for childbirth: Towards the end of your pregnancy, we go through the average course of childbirth with you. This is a valuable time to ask questions and discuss any wishes or concerns you may have.
By being present at these moments, you are not only a support for your partner, but you are already laying a special foundation for the bond with your baby. Your involvement really does make a difference.
Connecting with your unborn baby
It may seem far away, but did you know that you can already make contact with your baby during pregnancy? This is a wonderful way to bond even now.
Every pregnancy is unique, but on average your partner will feel your baby's first movements around the 20th week. For you, it may take a little longer before you can feel these movements too, usually from the 28th to 34th week. During this period, your baby is most active. What's special: your baby can respond not only to touches of the belly, but also to sounds, such as your voice.
A simple and nice way to make contact is to sit or lie down together quietly. Put your hands gently on your partner's tummy and talk to your baby. You may feel him or her move in response to your voice or touch. This is not only a beautiful moment for you, but also a special way to reflect together on the new life on the way.
So feel free to chatter away, sing a song or talk about your day. Your baby hears you and may respond more than you think!